Right now you should be reading this. What do you mean, “‘I should be reading this?’ Why?” because it’s important, and eliminating the word “should” may save your relationships. But what does that really mean and what is it that you should be doing or have done? Which brings me to telling you how much I really dislike the word “Should.”
Why do I dislike the word should and want to strike it from our vocabulary, our minds and the dictionary? Because it literally means something, “you have to do,” when something you had done, or something you are about to do, would have turned out, or will turn out, better. Do you want to live your life as a “Monday morning quarterback” or coach after a game on Sunday? It’s easy isn’t it to point to the things you “could” have done. As they say, “Hindsight is always twenty, twenty.”
So, first things first and in this case let’s try and eliminate the word should from our vocabulary. And if you’re still asking, “why?” then I’ll say it this way. Should is usually stated after the fact of doing and after an experience gone bad, where it is now easy to say, “I should have.” It’s akin to what I often heard my dad say, “If I only…” something or other.
The fact is you can only take one path at a time and you can only use your own experiences or get council from someone who has the knowledge and experience to make a decision to do whatever it is you are about to do. And when you’ve done what you set out to do you either had a pleasant, happy, successful outcome or you didn’t. As I was reminded, many years ago from a very nice young lady when I said to her, “You should have…” and she said to me, “Don’t should on me.” There was my first and most memorable experience of using the word “should.”
While pondering or debating something you are about to embark upon or something you have done the proper or correct thought is, “you could have done…” which is just saying there were other choices. Then try and understand how the choice you made could have had a different outcome and learn from it.
We will never, always have the correct thought, action or response. Not ever. That is what trial and error is all about. You did not fail; you just experienced something that told you what not to do next time. Anything that does not go well is not a failure; it is only a lesson in how not to do such and such. That is why we make certain choices and take certain paths. It’s based on our knowledge and experience however errant or faulty our logic is at that time. You only know what you know and no more than that.
Stop saying “should” or “if only” to yourself or anyone else. It only serves to cause pain, angst and depression. There are only things we could have done. There are only other paths we could have taken. And until someone can take divergent paths at the same time and then look at each experience simultaneously, then and only then, will you have the ability to make the correct, proper or most competent decision every time.
Right now, this minute, I want you to stop second-guessing everything you do or anyone else has done. It is over, it is in the past and nothing you do now will change that outcome. So now, right now, learn from that experience. There is a lesson in, there is knowledge in, and there is something positive to be taken from, every thing you do and every encounter you have.
I will add this one other bit of information, which will alleviate many of the “I could haves’,” and that is this; most everything you do, if it is done with love and for a higher good will usually have a positive outcome.
Monday, November 9, 2009
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Quantum Shift into Greatness Preface
Writing “Quantum Shift into Greatness,” was a challenge trying to meld scientific with spiritual information for an understanding of how they are in agreement, more so now than at anytime before. While I have taken the path of the universe being created by design, as opposed to by chance, it is up to you to discover and decide for yourself.
The root, or basis of this book is Kabbalah, and The Zohar. What I am sharing with you is a synthesis of these teachings and information from dozens of scientific and spiritual sources as well as from such luminaries as Wayne Dyer, Stuart Wilde, James Arthur Ray, Marianne Williamson and many others.
One thing I can tell you through my experience is that the “Universal Laws,” I speak of, have enormous power in your achieving a better life for yourself and for others. By my applying these teachings of the universal laws I was able to manifest this book and a better life. A life that I was meant to have from birth but didn’t recognize, and didn’t know how to achieve, until now.
I recorded the processes that brought results—the results that can only come by practice, belief and life experience. I noticed how I began to transform into someone more compassionate, more loving and more giving than I had ever been. Not until I realized that I was living proof could I sit down and write about this information and the tools for experiencing such a shift.
While I have proved this to myself, I don’t expect you to believe me. I only ask that you use these tools for yourself and discover their power to create a positive shift in your life. Prove it to yourself.
We all have the potential within us to manifest a life that is beautiful, joyful, loving, compassionate, successful and exciting by doing what we are passionate about, for what we do with passion; we do well and in the process, bring joy to others.
Additionally this book is not just for you, it is for everyone. It is for everyone because this is not just about how you can have “Stuff,” it’s about change for yourself and the world. I call it stuff because most of us want the material “Stuff.” I know that you want things, but the truth is, things have a very short shelf life. You get something new and shiny and you’re happy for a day, a week, maybe a month? What I want you to have is life-long happiness. What I want for you and you should want for yourself is true happiness, harmony and success with everything and everyone.
Partly, this book is a promotion for world peace. Now you can go, “what?” That’s right you and I have that much power, but it doesn’t happen overnight and sometimes it only happens one person at a time. However, even one person at a time can be one each day, which means 365 new peacemakers a year just from you. Here’s how it works exponentially. On day one, one person makes one new friend. On day two, both you and your new friend make a new friend, this now becomes four. On day three, the four of you each add a friend and that becomes eight and so on, doubling that number each day assuming that each person adds one more friend each day. At the end of 21 days, there will be over one million people who are friends. The actual number is 1,048,576. Do you think it’s possible to have peace in one year? Yes I realize that you may think it’s not possible and so I say, “What you think you will manifest.” If you intend it, it will happen. By the way at the end of 1 month that number is over a billion, 1,073,741,824 to be exact. Anything is possible.
In closing this information will change your life if you do the work and want all the great things the universe has to offer whether you believe in a higher power or not. Have the courage to step out of your box and be passionate about your life. Allow the inherent joy within you to erupt.
See yourself as a success.
Begin now.
Make the Shift! I’m with you.
The root, or basis of this book is Kabbalah, and The Zohar. What I am sharing with you is a synthesis of these teachings and information from dozens of scientific and spiritual sources as well as from such luminaries as Wayne Dyer, Stuart Wilde, James Arthur Ray, Marianne Williamson and many others.
One thing I can tell you through my experience is that the “Universal Laws,” I speak of, have enormous power in your achieving a better life for yourself and for others. By my applying these teachings of the universal laws I was able to manifest this book and a better life. A life that I was meant to have from birth but didn’t recognize, and didn’t know how to achieve, until now.
I recorded the processes that brought results—the results that can only come by practice, belief and life experience. I noticed how I began to transform into someone more compassionate, more loving and more giving than I had ever been. Not until I realized that I was living proof could I sit down and write about this information and the tools for experiencing such a shift.
While I have proved this to myself, I don’t expect you to believe me. I only ask that you use these tools for yourself and discover their power to create a positive shift in your life. Prove it to yourself.
We all have the potential within us to manifest a life that is beautiful, joyful, loving, compassionate, successful and exciting by doing what we are passionate about, for what we do with passion; we do well and in the process, bring joy to others.
Additionally this book is not just for you, it is for everyone. It is for everyone because this is not just about how you can have “Stuff,” it’s about change for yourself and the world. I call it stuff because most of us want the material “Stuff.” I know that you want things, but the truth is, things have a very short shelf life. You get something new and shiny and you’re happy for a day, a week, maybe a month? What I want you to have is life-long happiness. What I want for you and you should want for yourself is true happiness, harmony and success with everything and everyone.
Partly, this book is a promotion for world peace. Now you can go, “what?” That’s right you and I have that much power, but it doesn’t happen overnight and sometimes it only happens one person at a time. However, even one person at a time can be one each day, which means 365 new peacemakers a year just from you. Here’s how it works exponentially. On day one, one person makes one new friend. On day two, both you and your new friend make a new friend, this now becomes four. On day three, the four of you each add a friend and that becomes eight and so on, doubling that number each day assuming that each person adds one more friend each day. At the end of 21 days, there will be over one million people who are friends. The actual number is 1,048,576. Do you think it’s possible to have peace in one year? Yes I realize that you may think it’s not possible and so I say, “What you think you will manifest.” If you intend it, it will happen. By the way at the end of 1 month that number is over a billion, 1,073,741,824 to be exact. Anything is possible.
In closing this information will change your life if you do the work and want all the great things the universe has to offer whether you believe in a higher power or not. Have the courage to step out of your box and be passionate about your life. Allow the inherent joy within you to erupt.
See yourself as a success.
Begin now.
Make the Shift! I’m with you.
Saturday, August 1, 2009
RelationshiP or RelationshiT
When we say the word relationship we typically think of a personal connection such as a spouse or significant other. However, there are many other relationships with your co-worker(s), siblings, children, parents, friends and even those people who come into your life for just a few moments each week at a store or who come into your home to provide a service.
Of course the ones we think about the most are those relationships where we are in contact on a daily basis or are family. The question is how much do you really think about the relationship that exists between you and that other person? Of course if your relationship is a good one where you get along most of the time, where you communicate well with one another and you have a fairly strong bond there is usually little to think about. Then there are the other relationships, or should I say relationshits.
Most of us give little thought to our relationships except when we are forced to and then we typically act as if it is the other person who is the one who needs to change their attitude. At some point in our lives we must face the fact that our relationships may require some effort on our part to keep them healthy, vibrant, interesting and fun. If we don’t those seemingly strong relationships can wither and die, or become a relationshit.
There are so many questions not only to ask about our expectations in each relationship, but also those questions of how can I improve a relationship, and do I even want to make the effort? So to begin you’ll need to ask yourself the following questions of each and every relationship you have.
1. What do I expect from myself and the other person?
2. How do I communicate my expectations?
3. How does the other person communicate their expectations to me?
4. What are my feelings and opinions of each of them?
5. What improvements would I like to see in each relationship?
6. Why am I in this relationship?
7. Do I have to continually watch what I say or can I be open and candid?
8. How do I feel immediately upon thinking about or seeing this person?
9. Is this relationship occasionally or often a problem?
10. Do I value this relationship, and why?
You may think of a few more relevant questions. What I’m asking you is this, “Do I need or want this relationship to exist?” Then ask yourself, “What am I willing to do about it?”
Of course the more intimate the relationship the more contact we have and the more we receive and give attention to it. They say that opposites attract and while there may be some validity to this, opposites usually take more work and understanding. While being an opposite of someone can bring you new and exciting things and you can learn new ways of being and doing things, there are also the challenges of wanting to do, and allowing doing, things in a different way. Subconsciously, our minds could be telling us that this is an opportunity to become a more complete individual, by causing us to see and understand those things in life that are most difficult for us to deal with and overcome.
Once you understand your personality and the other person’s personality then you will have a better understanding of how you will get along and be able to relate to one another. There is a website that will help you understand who you are, your personality type. Try it and then ask those other significant people in your life to partake as well. Perhaps this will lead to a better and happier relationship for both of you.
One final thought to remember. You cannot change someone else you can only change yourself so I will share two quotes that I believe sum up this statement.
“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Gandhi
“A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still.” Ben Franklin
Think about it and then take time to improve your relationships it will make your life so much happier. RelationshiP or RelationshiT, which will you choose?
Arthur James Tassinello
http://www.thecoffeehousecoach.com
Author of “Quantum Shift into Greatness” available August 15, 2009
Personality assessment website:
http://www.personalitypage.com © BSM Consulting
Of course the ones we think about the most are those relationships where we are in contact on a daily basis or are family. The question is how much do you really think about the relationship that exists between you and that other person? Of course if your relationship is a good one where you get along most of the time, where you communicate well with one another and you have a fairly strong bond there is usually little to think about. Then there are the other relationships, or should I say relationshits.
Most of us give little thought to our relationships except when we are forced to and then we typically act as if it is the other person who is the one who needs to change their attitude. At some point in our lives we must face the fact that our relationships may require some effort on our part to keep them healthy, vibrant, interesting and fun. If we don’t those seemingly strong relationships can wither and die, or become a relationshit.
There are so many questions not only to ask about our expectations in each relationship, but also those questions of how can I improve a relationship, and do I even want to make the effort? So to begin you’ll need to ask yourself the following questions of each and every relationship you have.
1. What do I expect from myself and the other person?
2. How do I communicate my expectations?
3. How does the other person communicate their expectations to me?
4. What are my feelings and opinions of each of them?
5. What improvements would I like to see in each relationship?
6. Why am I in this relationship?
7. Do I have to continually watch what I say or can I be open and candid?
8. How do I feel immediately upon thinking about or seeing this person?
9. Is this relationship occasionally or often a problem?
10. Do I value this relationship, and why?
You may think of a few more relevant questions. What I’m asking you is this, “Do I need or want this relationship to exist?” Then ask yourself, “What am I willing to do about it?”
Of course the more intimate the relationship the more contact we have and the more we receive and give attention to it. They say that opposites attract and while there may be some validity to this, opposites usually take more work and understanding. While being an opposite of someone can bring you new and exciting things and you can learn new ways of being and doing things, there are also the challenges of wanting to do, and allowing doing, things in a different way. Subconsciously, our minds could be telling us that this is an opportunity to become a more complete individual, by causing us to see and understand those things in life that are most difficult for us to deal with and overcome.
Once you understand your personality and the other person’s personality then you will have a better understanding of how you will get along and be able to relate to one another. There is a website that will help you understand who you are, your personality type. Try it and then ask those other significant people in your life to partake as well. Perhaps this will lead to a better and happier relationship for both of you.
One final thought to remember. You cannot change someone else you can only change yourself so I will share two quotes that I believe sum up this statement.
“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Gandhi
“A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still.” Ben Franklin
Think about it and then take time to improve your relationships it will make your life so much happier. RelationshiP or RelationshiT, which will you choose?
Arthur James Tassinello
http://www.thecoffeehousecoach.com
Author of “Quantum Shift into Greatness” available August 15, 2009
Personality assessment website:
http://www.personalitypage.com © BSM Consulting
Monday, April 27, 2009
How Much Do You Want to Improve Your Life?
You know most of us live each day as if it’s on fire and we need to put it out. We wake up, have a cup of coffee, get ready to go to work, maybe turn on the TV, read e-mails and sometimes plan the day barely giving thought to our mental and physical well-being or our families. It seems as if the days work consumes us before we even begin and then we wonder why we are not physically fit, have poor relationships with family and friends, don’t eat right and are unhealthy, can’t sleep and have a generally pessimistic outlook on the day, which then translates into an unfulfilled life.
We typically believe that the process of figuring out how to fix our lives or who we want to be, what we want out of life, how to be successful, how to be healthy and how to have great relationships is something we must figure out alone. That asking for help is either seen as a weakness, unnecessary or just way outside of our comfort zone and our pocketbooks. Yet we'll stretch our money for a Starbucks, or a dinner out and even pay hundreds more a month for a status symbol of a house or a car.
Now this may not be totally you, but I’ll bet some of it rings true. If you believe that you have it all together then no amount of advice will help because you are closed off from the reality of your life and learning. However, if you can open the door just a little bit and look at those areas you are lacking in, or desiring change, then you can move to higher plain and a better level of living. Will it be easy? Perhaps, but for most of us change can be a monumental task as it takes a real willingness to invite change so your life can be better and more harmonious.
Although many of us have the ability to have a successful life, do you want to be 70 when you finally understand what you could have been doing for the last 40 years?
I can tell you that asking for help and having a mentor or a coach is the best way to succeed. Taking the first step towards bringing success into your life sooner rather than later will make a world of difference in how you live the rest of your life and not look back with regrets and without saying "I should have, or if I only."
Do you know that almost every successful person, from CEOs, COOs, Presidents, to entrepreneurs and even other coaches all use a coach or at least have a mentor. They use a professional adviser because they know that having a coach is the key to unlocking their full potential, gaining perspective and moving forward. Just as you would hire a doctor, a lawyer or a financial adviser, a professional coach will allow you to get to where you want to be in life or business easier and more successfully.
Success is different for each of us because it’s not always just about the MONEY. And while you may initially use a coach for this purpose you may want to consider using a coach to see success and harmony in all areas of your life. So why not have it all? In a very short time a good coach will have you on your way to extraordinary results, leading to a full and rich life where all aspects of your life are in harmony.
So why not have success and harmony, with your Finances so you can provide for yourself as well as others, with quality Relationships at home and in business, by keeping your Mind sharp through reading and learning, by staying Healthy through eating right and being Physically fit with regular exercise and by growing Spiritually in discovering who you are and why you are here.
Unlike a therapist who will help you in healing the wounds of the past; a coach will support and assist you in moving forward and in improving your life TODAY.
Let me know what you think?
We typically believe that the process of figuring out how to fix our lives or who we want to be, what we want out of life, how to be successful, how to be healthy and how to have great relationships is something we must figure out alone. That asking for help is either seen as a weakness, unnecessary or just way outside of our comfort zone and our pocketbooks. Yet we'll stretch our money for a Starbucks, or a dinner out and even pay hundreds more a month for a status symbol of a house or a car.
Now this may not be totally you, but I’ll bet some of it rings true. If you believe that you have it all together then no amount of advice will help because you are closed off from the reality of your life and learning. However, if you can open the door just a little bit and look at those areas you are lacking in, or desiring change, then you can move to higher plain and a better level of living. Will it be easy? Perhaps, but for most of us change can be a monumental task as it takes a real willingness to invite change so your life can be better and more harmonious.
Although many of us have the ability to have a successful life, do you want to be 70 when you finally understand what you could have been doing for the last 40 years?
I can tell you that asking for help and having a mentor or a coach is the best way to succeed. Taking the first step towards bringing success into your life sooner rather than later will make a world of difference in how you live the rest of your life and not look back with regrets and without saying "I should have, or if I only."
Do you know that almost every successful person, from CEOs, COOs, Presidents, to entrepreneurs and even other coaches all use a coach or at least have a mentor. They use a professional adviser because they know that having a coach is the key to unlocking their full potential, gaining perspective and moving forward. Just as you would hire a doctor, a lawyer or a financial adviser, a professional coach will allow you to get to where you want to be in life or business easier and more successfully.
Success is different for each of us because it’s not always just about the MONEY. And while you may initially use a coach for this purpose you may want to consider using a coach to see success and harmony in all areas of your life. So why not have it all? In a very short time a good coach will have you on your way to extraordinary results, leading to a full and rich life where all aspects of your life are in harmony.
So why not have success and harmony, with your Finances so you can provide for yourself as well as others, with quality Relationships at home and in business, by keeping your Mind sharp through reading and learning, by staying Healthy through eating right and being Physically fit with regular exercise and by growing Spiritually in discovering who you are and why you are here.
Unlike a therapist who will help you in healing the wounds of the past; a coach will support and assist you in moving forward and in improving your life TODAY.
Let me know what you think?
Friday, April 17, 2009
What is your intention?
Intention is what you will do and how you will show up for yourself and the world. If you lack intention or failing to make a decision to do what ever your subconscious or conscious mind has thought of, it is the same as allowing someone else make your decisions for you and having no intention at all. That’s right it’s the same your failing to plan, which is the same as planning to fail. Unless you decide to manifest something it will not come to fruition. You must do something, you cannot sit on a rock thinking of having something and believing it will happen without a physical action on your part.
So many of us sit around and ponder what we will do in our lives. How will I find a good mate? How will I find a good job or build my own business? How will I have an athletic body? Whatever your goal if you just think about it and continue with doubts about it you cannot achieve it. Saying things like “you know I’m going try out this new diet and see how it goes.” There is no intention of making it work. You have not made the decision to have it be successful because you have not made the commitment to make it so. Trying is only just that, it is a wishy-washy ploy to deceive yourself into believing you may actually achieve your goal. But you see it’s not a real goal, because you are not really intent on reaching it. You will allow excuses to creep in. I just couldn’t eat what I was supposed to everyday, I just couldn’t get to the gym because I woke up late. I just couldn’t blah, blah, blah. It’s not, I just couldn’t, it’s just I am not willing to do what it takes to reach my goal. Sometimes we really believe that we are doing our best, but if you look at the results or lack thereof you’d have to admit that you really weren’t intent on reaching your goal or hitting your target.
What goes along with INTENTION? ATTENTION. You now must pay attention and give energy to your intention. Again, not try, but actually get yourself off the couch and out of the house or to your computer, or to whatever it is for you to make it happen. YOU MUST DO IT! So are you doing it? Let me know what you do to make your life a success. How do you do it? What do you do? What do you tell yourself? Come on let me know.
You have awesomeness in you. So go have an awesome day.
Namaste,
Arthur
So many of us sit around and ponder what we will do in our lives. How will I find a good mate? How will I find a good job or build my own business? How will I have an athletic body? Whatever your goal if you just think about it and continue with doubts about it you cannot achieve it. Saying things like “you know I’m going try out this new diet and see how it goes.” There is no intention of making it work. You have not made the decision to have it be successful because you have not made the commitment to make it so. Trying is only just that, it is a wishy-washy ploy to deceive yourself into believing you may actually achieve your goal. But you see it’s not a real goal, because you are not really intent on reaching it. You will allow excuses to creep in. I just couldn’t eat what I was supposed to everyday, I just couldn’t get to the gym because I woke up late. I just couldn’t blah, blah, blah. It’s not, I just couldn’t, it’s just I am not willing to do what it takes to reach my goal. Sometimes we really believe that we are doing our best, but if you look at the results or lack thereof you’d have to admit that you really weren’t intent on reaching your goal or hitting your target.
What goes along with INTENTION? ATTENTION. You now must pay attention and give energy to your intention. Again, not try, but actually get yourself off the couch and out of the house or to your computer, or to whatever it is for you to make it happen. YOU MUST DO IT! So are you doing it? Let me know what you do to make your life a success. How do you do it? What do you do? What do you tell yourself? Come on let me know.
You have awesomeness in you. So go have an awesome day.
Namaste,
Arthur
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Your Body and the Earth – What do they have in common?
Do you take care of your body? Most of us would surely answer yes. At least we like to think we do. Do you eat properly? Do you cook your own meals? Do you eat organic foods? Do you look carefully at the ingredients in processed foods? So just how thoughtful are you of your body? The instrument you inhabit that allows you to do, be and have.
I’m sure your answers are interesting as well as your excuses for not treating yourself, as you should. I’m not here to chastise you or berate you for not taking care of yourself, because frankly if you don’t care about you, why should anyone else. That sounds harsh, doesn’t it?
By the way I’m not that kind of person, I’m just creating an awakening here. You see I’m writing about this for 2 reasons. One, because I do care about you, and two because I care about the earth. So what do you and the Earth have in common? Well, you see you are not just the custodian of your own body you are the custodian of the earth. And frankly I’m concerned that if you don’t care about yourself, you won’t care about the earth and its other inhabitants, which are about me, your neighbors and your friends and family.
You see although I can only give you advice on how to take care of yourself; I can’t do it for you. But when it comes to the earth we need to work together and we need to understand and come to an agreement that since I want to live a healthy life that you need to be in alignment with me to make it happen. First I can’t do it without you and second It’s not fair that I have to fight for my life and carry 100% of the burden.
Right now if the earth were your body you would be able to feel how ill it is and how it is suffering. It is suffering with political and economic oppression, war, famine and pollution. Each day there are children all over the world who are suffering from malnutrition, blindness, and homelessness and in the hands of heartless people. There are adults who have no idea how to fend for themselves, where to turn for food or shelter and who are slaughtered by tyrants and governments because of greed.
This piece I write today is just a call to awakening and as a reminder (although I’m sure you haven’t forgotten) that everyday, regardless of what you do, you need not just to be aware of, but also to take care of me. I am your brother, your sister, your father, your mother, your aunt, your uncle, and your neighbor on this orb floating in space. Yes, I am your family and we are all in the same bus. We share the same resources and every time you litter, you poison or misuse anything on this earth, whether it be a person, animal or resource you do the same to yourself.
I am on your side, I am looking out for you, I love and care about you and for you, please do the same for me. The atoms that make me who I am and the atoms that make you who you are, they are the same just resonating at different frequencies and they touch each other through the atoms of space and time.
We are so connected - please practice mindfulness and compassion in each moment of your daily life and cultivate peace. With clarity, determination and patience we can all have a peaceful, healthy and prosperous life.
Namaste
Arthur James Tassinello
I’m sure your answers are interesting as well as your excuses for not treating yourself, as you should. I’m not here to chastise you or berate you for not taking care of yourself, because frankly if you don’t care about you, why should anyone else. That sounds harsh, doesn’t it?
By the way I’m not that kind of person, I’m just creating an awakening here. You see I’m writing about this for 2 reasons. One, because I do care about you, and two because I care about the earth. So what do you and the Earth have in common? Well, you see you are not just the custodian of your own body you are the custodian of the earth. And frankly I’m concerned that if you don’t care about yourself, you won’t care about the earth and its other inhabitants, which are about me, your neighbors and your friends and family.
You see although I can only give you advice on how to take care of yourself; I can’t do it for you. But when it comes to the earth we need to work together and we need to understand and come to an agreement that since I want to live a healthy life that you need to be in alignment with me to make it happen. First I can’t do it without you and second It’s not fair that I have to fight for my life and carry 100% of the burden.
Right now if the earth were your body you would be able to feel how ill it is and how it is suffering. It is suffering with political and economic oppression, war, famine and pollution. Each day there are children all over the world who are suffering from malnutrition, blindness, and homelessness and in the hands of heartless people. There are adults who have no idea how to fend for themselves, where to turn for food or shelter and who are slaughtered by tyrants and governments because of greed.
This piece I write today is just a call to awakening and as a reminder (although I’m sure you haven’t forgotten) that everyday, regardless of what you do, you need not just to be aware of, but also to take care of me. I am your brother, your sister, your father, your mother, your aunt, your uncle, and your neighbor on this orb floating in space. Yes, I am your family and we are all in the same bus. We share the same resources and every time you litter, you poison or misuse anything on this earth, whether it be a person, animal or resource you do the same to yourself.
I am on your side, I am looking out for you, I love and care about you and for you, please do the same for me. The atoms that make me who I am and the atoms that make you who you are, they are the same just resonating at different frequencies and they touch each other through the atoms of space and time.
We are so connected - please practice mindfulness and compassion in each moment of your daily life and cultivate peace. With clarity, determination and patience we can all have a peaceful, healthy and prosperous life.
Namaste
Arthur James Tassinello
Monday, February 23, 2009
Bloated Budget
Well, if you are reading or listening to the news you saw that the administration is finally addressing the exorbitant pentagon spending. Did you realize that about 45% of the total budget of 1 Trillion dollars is slated for the military? Incredible, no wonder we have wars.
Let’s get a grip on ourselves and look at how things work. To start off, if you allot, decide that you will spend, x dollars for something then you obviously will spend it there won’t you? Okay, not to sound ridiculous, my point is this. Let’s say I have allotted $1,000 a month to buy a new car. Then when I go shopping for a car I’ll spend as close to that number, if not a little more than I allotted because I said it was okay to do so. I could buy a car for a lot less and spend less and allocate some of it for something else, couldn’t I. I’m sure you’re getting the point.
So can you guess why we are at war so often? That’s right because we said that we needed $500 billion dollars for the military. Let’s face it, the military is not really a peace keeping organization. Okay, so now you’re saying something like well we need $500 billion for the war in Iraq or Afghanistan or wherever we decide to make war. It’s kind of the same old question of “what came first the chicken or the egg?” If we didn’t allocate so much for defense we wouldn’t be so quick to go to war because we wouldn’t have the resources. If you’re a hawk you’ll fight this logic tooth and nail because you like war.
What we hear a lot of is that we don’t have enough teachers or we can’t have more clinics or we can’t have great health care, etc. because we don’t have enough money in the budget. Whoa, let’s hold on doggies. Why don’t we just allocate more money for health and living programs as opposed to killing and dying programs? Seems to me that more people want death and war than they want life and peace. Or is it that the few who have the power want the death and war programs.
Has anyone done a poll to see how many people want to be at war? Now don’t ask the question if we should be at war, just ask if there were no war now and no reason to go to war (is there ever?) how many people would want war? I’m guessing it would be a very small percentage.
You see it is exactly at times like these where we must ask ourselves the hard yet practical question. Where is our money, your money, best spent? How much do we really need to defend ourselves? Remember we are on the offense not on the defense and offense costs a lot more than a defense.
I can buy into having a military to be trained for defending a potential threat and at the same time they could be doing other constructive things barring making war because we think someone is about to do attack us. We could have a much smaller military budget using the money to build infrastructure and help all of us here at home.
We have so many excuses for war and so few for peace. Stand up for your rights, our rights, to make peace, to make jobs, to make love and to make sense. I especially like the make love part. Somewhere I heard someone say, “the pen is mightier than the sword”. Pick up your pen and write your congressman and have them pick up their pen and sign a budget and a bill that makes sense(cents?). Slash that military spending.
Love to hear from you, even the hawks, I am open minded, sometimes.
Let’s get a grip on ourselves and look at how things work. To start off, if you allot, decide that you will spend, x dollars for something then you obviously will spend it there won’t you? Okay, not to sound ridiculous, my point is this. Let’s say I have allotted $1,000 a month to buy a new car. Then when I go shopping for a car I’ll spend as close to that number, if not a little more than I allotted because I said it was okay to do so. I could buy a car for a lot less and spend less and allocate some of it for something else, couldn’t I. I’m sure you’re getting the point.
So can you guess why we are at war so often? That’s right because we said that we needed $500 billion dollars for the military. Let’s face it, the military is not really a peace keeping organization. Okay, so now you’re saying something like well we need $500 billion for the war in Iraq or Afghanistan or wherever we decide to make war. It’s kind of the same old question of “what came first the chicken or the egg?” If we didn’t allocate so much for defense we wouldn’t be so quick to go to war because we wouldn’t have the resources. If you’re a hawk you’ll fight this logic tooth and nail because you like war.
What we hear a lot of is that we don’t have enough teachers or we can’t have more clinics or we can’t have great health care, etc. because we don’t have enough money in the budget. Whoa, let’s hold on doggies. Why don’t we just allocate more money for health and living programs as opposed to killing and dying programs? Seems to me that more people want death and war than they want life and peace. Or is it that the few who have the power want the death and war programs.
Has anyone done a poll to see how many people want to be at war? Now don’t ask the question if we should be at war, just ask if there were no war now and no reason to go to war (is there ever?) how many people would want war? I’m guessing it would be a very small percentage.
You see it is exactly at times like these where we must ask ourselves the hard yet practical question. Where is our money, your money, best spent? How much do we really need to defend ourselves? Remember we are on the offense not on the defense and offense costs a lot more than a defense.
I can buy into having a military to be trained for defending a potential threat and at the same time they could be doing other constructive things barring making war because we think someone is about to do attack us. We could have a much smaller military budget using the money to build infrastructure and help all of us here at home.
We have so many excuses for war and so few for peace. Stand up for your rights, our rights, to make peace, to make jobs, to make love and to make sense. I especially like the make love part. Somewhere I heard someone say, “the pen is mightier than the sword”. Pick up your pen and write your congressman and have them pick up their pen and sign a budget and a bill that makes sense(cents?). Slash that military spending.
Love to hear from you, even the hawks, I am open minded, sometimes.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
End of Days?
What does that mean to you? It certainly has a lot of definitions attached to it. Some believe that the world will end, that there will be some kind of apocalypse. That all evil will be removed from the earth and only the most spiritual and holy will remain. Or the earth will be totally annihilated and nothing will remain. Along the lines of what happened to the dinosaurs and the planet will begin it’s own healing process and perhaps be re-inhabited by man. And some think that it’s all BS.
What is mostly written about today has to do with the Mayan calendar and how it stops in the year 2012, December 21st to be exact. And if you follow the readings and teachings of Cayce, Nostradamus and/or other seers, it has been interpreted that on this day, the Great Cycle ends, time ends, so the Earth must end as well. But how and what does that really mean. I assure you there are few, very few who really have the inside scoop on this. Of course, most of us who have read or followed this information we have our own opinions and interpretations depending on where we are in our lives. What I mean by this is where we are in our beliefs about God, religion, and spirituality.
Although the word is getting out and more and more people are seeking spirituality, very few know of or have read the Kabbalah or the Zohar. These writings go back thousands of years and like the seers I mentioned above have more information and more insight into who we are, where we came from and where we are going. I will mention the bible and the Torah only to say that these books are based on the writings of the Zohar and there interpretation of the Zohar has left us with a lot of, let’s say, misinformation or misinterpretation. Additionally, the Zohar is not a religion it is based on science, unlike the bible and the Torah.
So why am I writing about this today? Because I believe it is important, especially at this time in our lives, to look at who we are, why we are here and why we are in the troubled state we are in today. What is happening around the world is a wake up call. The call that says if we don’t change what we do and how we do it we will doom ourselves.
So to get back to my title, “End of Days” and what it means is this. We must stop the greed, the violence and the selfishness. We can no longer tolerate having a few people take advantage of, or sacrifice, others for their pleasures. That’s it. It’s really that simple. We are spiritual beings clothed by bone, muscle and skin, and if we striped it all away we would all look the same. There would be no physical way to judge others and we would choose non-judgmental ways of doing things. We all chose to be here, to experience and enjoy what this planet has to offer and to share its offerings with everyone. To live in harmony, not balance, but harmony where everything is in tune. We are here to experience love and to give love. We are here, together on this one orb floating in space; and that in itself should be enough for us to want to have peace, which creates a place of joy and tranquility for all, not just a few.
I know you are seeing the change and many of you are getting the message and practicing harmony. So every day please stay aware and practice love, giving and tolerance with a smile. “Pay it forward” as they say and stop waiting for the love to come. For it will come to you as you give it. We have a choice to change the world and change the final outcome. End of days does not have to mean apocalypse. We have the power to heal the planet; all we have to do is be it.
I look forward to your thoughts.
Namaste,
Arthur
What is mostly written about today has to do with the Mayan calendar and how it stops in the year 2012, December 21st to be exact. And if you follow the readings and teachings of Cayce, Nostradamus and/or other seers, it has been interpreted that on this day, the Great Cycle ends, time ends, so the Earth must end as well. But how and what does that really mean. I assure you there are few, very few who really have the inside scoop on this. Of course, most of us who have read or followed this information we have our own opinions and interpretations depending on where we are in our lives. What I mean by this is where we are in our beliefs about God, religion, and spirituality.
Although the word is getting out and more and more people are seeking spirituality, very few know of or have read the Kabbalah or the Zohar. These writings go back thousands of years and like the seers I mentioned above have more information and more insight into who we are, where we came from and where we are going. I will mention the bible and the Torah only to say that these books are based on the writings of the Zohar and there interpretation of the Zohar has left us with a lot of, let’s say, misinformation or misinterpretation. Additionally, the Zohar is not a religion it is based on science, unlike the bible and the Torah.
So why am I writing about this today? Because I believe it is important, especially at this time in our lives, to look at who we are, why we are here and why we are in the troubled state we are in today. What is happening around the world is a wake up call. The call that says if we don’t change what we do and how we do it we will doom ourselves.
So to get back to my title, “End of Days” and what it means is this. We must stop the greed, the violence and the selfishness. We can no longer tolerate having a few people take advantage of, or sacrifice, others for their pleasures. That’s it. It’s really that simple. We are spiritual beings clothed by bone, muscle and skin, and if we striped it all away we would all look the same. There would be no physical way to judge others and we would choose non-judgmental ways of doing things. We all chose to be here, to experience and enjoy what this planet has to offer and to share its offerings with everyone. To live in harmony, not balance, but harmony where everything is in tune. We are here to experience love and to give love. We are here, together on this one orb floating in space; and that in itself should be enough for us to want to have peace, which creates a place of joy and tranquility for all, not just a few.
I know you are seeing the change and many of you are getting the message and practicing harmony. So every day please stay aware and practice love, giving and tolerance with a smile. “Pay it forward” as they say and stop waiting for the love to come. For it will come to you as you give it. We have a choice to change the world and change the final outcome. End of days does not have to mean apocalypse. We have the power to heal the planet; all we have to do is be it.
I look forward to your thoughts.
Namaste,
Arthur
Friday, February 6, 2009
New Years Resolutions in February?
Okay, Okay so you’re not done partying yet are you. And you’re still contemplating making some resolutions. Like most of us, and like most years, you begin by talking about something and how things will be different this year. I’m really going to stick to my diet. I’m definitely going to the gym 5 times a week. I’m putting my resume together and I’m going to find that perfect job or I’m finally going to start that business I’ve been thinking about for years. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You and I have made these statements before and have heard the same talk from others and not just at the beginning of every new year. So what’s stopping you?
Lot’s of things , which are really lot’s of excuses. I don’t have enough money. I don’t have the time. It’s only another year before the kids are out of the house. It’s the same old, I don’t have, I can’t right now and it’s only. The excuses pile up one after another. Or should I say the reasons and justifications you have in your bag of “not right now”. Wow aren’t you good at sabotaging yourself.
The real reason is that you don’t truly believe in yourself, you fear failure and sometimes success and you don’t have any support. So what will you do this year that’s different than last year? Maybe believing in yourself and knowing that you deserve all the things you want. Maybe getting a coach will be the start to get you moving and helping you reach those deserving goals. That’s just a few of the things you can do to get yourself on the road you’ve always wanted to travel.
So tell me have you made a resolution or two? And how do plan to make it stick and get what you want? I really need to hear from you.
email me at: arthurjames@thecoffeehousecoach.com
Lot’s of things , which are really lot’s of excuses. I don’t have enough money. I don’t have the time. It’s only another year before the kids are out of the house. It’s the same old, I don’t have, I can’t right now and it’s only. The excuses pile up one after another. Or should I say the reasons and justifications you have in your bag of “not right now”. Wow aren’t you good at sabotaging yourself.
The real reason is that you don’t truly believe in yourself, you fear failure and sometimes success and you don’t have any support. So what will you do this year that’s different than last year? Maybe believing in yourself and knowing that you deserve all the things you want. Maybe getting a coach will be the start to get you moving and helping you reach those deserving goals. That’s just a few of the things you can do to get yourself on the road you’ve always wanted to travel.
So tell me have you made a resolution or two? And how do plan to make it stick and get what you want? I really need to hear from you.
email me at: arthurjames@thecoffeehousecoach.com
How Healthy Are You? It’s not just about your weight!
Did you know that 66% of the population of the US is overweight. Here’s what the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey states: About two-thirds (66%) of adults in the United States are overweight, and almost one-third are obese. By the way some surveys actually put the overweight now at 70%.
The most commonly used method today to calculate if you are overweight is the body mass index (BMI). BMI is an index of weight adjusted for the height of an individual. Calculating BMI is simple, quick, and inexpensive—but it does have limitations. One problem with using BMI as a measurement tool is that very muscular people may fall into the “overweight” category when they are actually healthy and fit. Another problem with using BMI is that people who have lost muscle mass, such as the elderly, may be in the “healthy weight” BMI category (BMI 18.5 to 24.9) when they actually have reduced nutritional reserves. BMI, therefore, is useful as a screening tool for individuals and as a general guideline to monitor trends in the population, but by itself is not diagnostic of an individual patient’s health status.
An easy way to calculate your BMI using pounds and inches, multiply weight in pounds by 704.5,* divide the result by height in inches, and then divide that result by height in inches a second time. (You can also use the BMI calculator at http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bm.
Here are some of the problems with being overweight and obese: (Remember that we’re talking about those with a higher FAT ratio than MUSCLE ratio).
Overweight
♥ diabetes
♥ coronary heart disease
♥ high blood cholesterol
♥ stroke
♥ hypertension
♥ gallbladder disease
♥ osteoarthritis (degeneration of cartilage and bone of joints)
♥ sleep apnea and other breathing problems
♥ some forms of cancer (breast, colorectal, endometrial, and kidney)
Obesity
♥ complications of pregnancy
♥ menstrual irregularities
♥ hirsutism (presence of excess body and facial hair)
♥ stress incontinence (urine leakage caused by weak pelvic floor muscles)
♥ psychological disorders, such as depression
♥ increased surgical risk
♥ increased mortality
Here’s the US statistics.
Age 20 and older who are overweight
All adults: 133.6 million (66 percent)
Women: 65 million (61.6 percent)
Men: 68.3 million (70.5 percent)
Age 20 and older who are obese
All adults: 63.6 million (31.4 percent)
Women: 35 million (33.2 percent)
Men: 28.6 million (29.5 percent)
Age 20 and older who are at a healthy weight (not necessarily healthy)
All adults: 65.4 million (32.3 percent)
Women: 38.1 million (36.1 percent)
Men: 27.4 million (28.3 percent)
Here are the stats on children and adolescents:
Approximately 17.5 percent of children (age 6 to 11) and
17 percent of adolescents (age 12 to 19) were overweight
If you aren’t already thinking about the following I’ll give you a head start on the ramifications of being overweight.
♥ Increased health care costs—both direct and indirect – cost $117 billion (2002).
Direct health care costs refer to preventive, diagnostic, and treatment services such as physician visits, medications, and hospital and nursing home care.
Indirect costs are the value of wages lost by people unable to work because of illness or disability, as well as the value of future earnings lost by premature death.
♥ Lost productivity – cost is $3.9 billion (2001)
Beyond those more measurable costs there are the following potential effects:
♥ Early death - Leaving young children without a parent
♥ Loss of mobility causing others to care for you
♥ Lack of self-esteem
♥ Inability to function or participate in certain sports
♥ Loss of a job or being overlooked for a promotion (yes it is judgmental)
♥ Transportation difficulties
♥ Clothing costs
♥ Auto gets lower gas mileage because of additional weight
I’m sure you can add to the list.
Just so you know I have no judgments about overweight people as I have some very great friends who are overweight, hard not to have any with 66% - 70% of the population in that category. I only point this out to be clear that getting on the healthy side of life has many advantages not just for the overweight person, but also for friends, family, the economy (theirs and ours) and the environment.
I really look forward to your perspective and comments.
Send them to: arthur@lifenhealthcoach.com
The most commonly used method today to calculate if you are overweight is the body mass index (BMI). BMI is an index of weight adjusted for the height of an individual. Calculating BMI is simple, quick, and inexpensive—but it does have limitations. One problem with using BMI as a measurement tool is that very muscular people may fall into the “overweight” category when they are actually healthy and fit. Another problem with using BMI is that people who have lost muscle mass, such as the elderly, may be in the “healthy weight” BMI category (BMI 18.5 to 24.9) when they actually have reduced nutritional reserves. BMI, therefore, is useful as a screening tool for individuals and as a general guideline to monitor trends in the population, but by itself is not diagnostic of an individual patient’s health status.
An easy way to calculate your BMI using pounds and inches, multiply weight in pounds by 704.5,* divide the result by height in inches, and then divide that result by height in inches a second time. (You can also use the BMI calculator at http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bm.
Here are some of the problems with being overweight and obese: (Remember that we’re talking about those with a higher FAT ratio than MUSCLE ratio).
Overweight
♥ diabetes
♥ coronary heart disease
♥ high blood cholesterol
♥ stroke
♥ hypertension
♥ gallbladder disease
♥ osteoarthritis (degeneration of cartilage and bone of joints)
♥ sleep apnea and other breathing problems
♥ some forms of cancer (breast, colorectal, endometrial, and kidney)
Obesity
♥ complications of pregnancy
♥ menstrual irregularities
♥ hirsutism (presence of excess body and facial hair)
♥ stress incontinence (urine leakage caused by weak pelvic floor muscles)
♥ psychological disorders, such as depression
♥ increased surgical risk
♥ increased mortality
Here’s the US statistics.
Age 20 and older who are overweight
All adults: 133.6 million (66 percent)
Women: 65 million (61.6 percent)
Men: 68.3 million (70.5 percent)
Age 20 and older who are obese
All adults: 63.6 million (31.4 percent)
Women: 35 million (33.2 percent)
Men: 28.6 million (29.5 percent)
Age 20 and older who are at a healthy weight (not necessarily healthy)
All adults: 65.4 million (32.3 percent)
Women: 38.1 million (36.1 percent)
Men: 27.4 million (28.3 percent)
Here are the stats on children and adolescents:
Approximately 17.5 percent of children (age 6 to 11) and
17 percent of adolescents (age 12 to 19) were overweight
If you aren’t already thinking about the following I’ll give you a head start on the ramifications of being overweight.
♥ Increased health care costs—both direct and indirect – cost $117 billion (2002).
Direct health care costs refer to preventive, diagnostic, and treatment services such as physician visits, medications, and hospital and nursing home care.
Indirect costs are the value of wages lost by people unable to work because of illness or disability, as well as the value of future earnings lost by premature death.
♥ Lost productivity – cost is $3.9 billion (2001)
Beyond those more measurable costs there are the following potential effects:
♥ Early death - Leaving young children without a parent
♥ Loss of mobility causing others to care for you
♥ Lack of self-esteem
♥ Inability to function or participate in certain sports
♥ Loss of a job or being overlooked for a promotion (yes it is judgmental)
♥ Transportation difficulties
♥ Clothing costs
♥ Auto gets lower gas mileage because of additional weight
I’m sure you can add to the list.
Just so you know I have no judgments about overweight people as I have some very great friends who are overweight, hard not to have any with 66% - 70% of the population in that category. I only point this out to be clear that getting on the healthy side of life has many advantages not just for the overweight person, but also for friends, family, the economy (theirs and ours) and the environment.
I really look forward to your perspective and comments.
Send them to: arthur@lifenhealthcoach.com
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Listening in the Present - Can You Hear Me?
I’m sure you’ve heard this many times; that this moment is not just the present moment, but also a present to you. It means that this very minute is a gift in which you can do whatever it is you please. And by living in the present, in this very moment it not only shapes your future, it can provide you with a “no regrets” past.
As you read this are you really somewhere else? Are you thinking about something from your past or thinking about what you need or want to do next, or later today, or next week, or next month? Yes, most of us have a very difficult time staying in the moment. It’s amazing that we actually hear or listen to anything that’s being said.
Do you know that listening is an acquired skill? There really needs to be courses in listening. Right now, as you read this, you are contemplating so many other things and unless this subject really intrigues you, you may or may not even finish reading it. And even if you do will you have digested the information and use it to your benefit in the future?
Now, if you really what to get ethereal you will want to pay attention to everything that comes into your life because it came to you for a reason. Unfortunately, unless you listen you’ll never discover why this article came to you, or why I was the person, who wrote it, or what the meaning of this message is for you, or what you need to learn from it. Sound cryptic? Not really, you see even when you are writing there is a message there for you as well. Think about it, contemplate it, and find the message.
So tell me how do you handle the present? Are you present or not? And did this have any meaning for you?
As you read this are you really somewhere else? Are you thinking about something from your past or thinking about what you need or want to do next, or later today, or next week, or next month? Yes, most of us have a very difficult time staying in the moment. It’s amazing that we actually hear or listen to anything that’s being said.
Do you know that listening is an acquired skill? There really needs to be courses in listening. Right now, as you read this, you are contemplating so many other things and unless this subject really intrigues you, you may or may not even finish reading it. And even if you do will you have digested the information and use it to your benefit in the future?
Now, if you really what to get ethereal you will want to pay attention to everything that comes into your life because it came to you for a reason. Unfortunately, unless you listen you’ll never discover why this article came to you, or why I was the person, who wrote it, or what the meaning of this message is for you, or what you need to learn from it. Sound cryptic? Not really, you see even when you are writing there is a message there for you as well. Think about it, contemplate it, and find the message.
So tell me how do you handle the present? Are you present or not? And did this have any meaning for you?
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